Meeting in person is what Resonance is for. Here's the advice we'd give a friend before a first meetup. It takes a minute to read.
Meet at a café, a park, a bookstore or a busy part of campus: somewhere with other people around and, if you can, in daylight. Don't meet at either of your homes. Keep the first meetup short, too. Coffee on a busy day is easy to extend if it's going well and easy to end if it isn't.
Tell a friend, a sibling or a roommate who you're meeting, where, and about when you'll be done. It's a ten-second text. Say you'll text them when you're home, and then do it.
If you'd like to see and hear someone before you meet, ask. Most people won't find that strange, and if someone objects, that tells you something. Resonance doesn't host calls, so use any app you both have. There's no rush to move off Resonance messages.
Use your own car, your own ride or your own bus fare, so you can leave whenever you want without needing anything from the other person. Don't get picked up from home for a first meeting, even if they offer.
Your number, your address, where you work, your last name and your social media accounts are yours to share when you're ready. Resonance messages work fine, and "I'd rather keep chatting on here for now" is a complete answer. If someone keeps pushing after that, take it as a warning sign.
If something feels off, you don't need a reason or a polite excuse. "I'm going to head out" is enough. You never owe anyone a longer conversation than you want. Trust a bad feeling even if you can't explain it.
We don't do background checks on anyone, including you. We only know what each person gave us: a survey about how they see the world, a first name they say is real, and a profile they wrote themselves. Assume that's all we know.
A match means you two see things in ways that tend to make people click. A match is not an endorsement. It doesn't mean we vouch for someone or that they're safe to be alone with. We can tell you you'll probably have a good conversation. We can't tell you who someone is.
Use the same judgment you'd use meeting a friend of a friend for the first time.
Block and Report are at the bottom of a person's page, which opens when you tap their card on your network. Both are also at the top of your conversation with them, next to Mute.
Blocking is instant. They aren't notified, and everything between you two disappears for both of you. You won't be matched again. You don't have to explain it to anyone, and you can undo it from your Account page.
Reports go to Matt, who reads each one himself. Write as much or as little as you like. The other person is never told you reported them. To report someone you can't reach with these buttons, email support@resonance.info and a person will read it.
If you're in immediate danger, call your local emergency number first. Resonance isn't an emergency service and can't reach you fast enough to help. In the US, if you're in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, you can call or text 988 any time.
Most meetups go well. These tips aren't a warning about people on Resonance. They just help you meet more people safely. How matches work →