Meeting up is the whole point of this — it's the best thing that happens here. Here's what we'd say to a friend heading out the door, and it takes a minute to read.
A café, a park, a bookshop, a busy corner of campus. Somewhere with other people around and, if you can manage it, in daylight. Not their place and not yours — that can come later, once later means something.
A friend, a sibling, a housemate: who you're meeting, where, and roughly when you'll be done. It's a ten-second text and it costs you nothing. Tell them you'll message when you're home, and then do.
Your own car, your own ride, your own bus fare. Being able to leave the moment you'd like to leave — without needing anything from the person you're with — is the whole reason this one matters.
If something feels off, you don't need a reason, a diagnosis, or a polite exit. "I'm going to head off" is a complete sentence. You will never owe anyone a longer conversation than you want to have, and nobody here will think less of you for cutting one short. Discomfort you can't explain is still information.
Coffee, an hour, in the middle of a day you have other things in. Easy to extend if it's going well, easy to end if it isn't. Dinner-and-a-long-evening is a lot to commit to a stranger, even a well-matched one.
We don't do background checks. Not on anyone, ever — not on them and not on you. What we know is what everyone here gave us: a survey about how they see the world, a real first name in good faith, and a profile they wrote themselves. That's it, and you should assume it's it.
A match means the way the two of you perceive things overlaps in a way that tends to make people click. That is an introduction, not an endorsement. It is not a character reference, not a vouch, and not a statement that someone is safe to be alone with. We can tell you that you'll probably have a good conversation. We can't tell you who someone is.
So bring exactly the judgment you'd bring to meeting a friend of a friend for the first time — which is what this is.
You can block anyone, any time — it's on their card on your network page and in your conversation with them. It's instant and silent: they aren't told, they see no error, and the two of you simply stop being visible to each other everywhere at once. You never have to explain it to us or to them.
If someone behaved badly, tell us: support@resonance.info. A person reads every one of those, we take them seriously, and reporting someone is not something that gets back to them.
If you're in immediate danger, call your local emergency number first — we are not an emergency service and we can't reach you fast enough to help. In the US, if you're in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, you can call or text 988 any time.
Almost all of these are lovely. Two people who see the world the same way, an hour, a coffee — mostly it goes exactly as well as you'd hope. The list above isn't a warning about the people here; it's the small amount of care that lets you say yes to more of them. How meeting more people works →